Tips for Effective Communication During a Sex Date

I've always been a withdrawn person.

Not shy, but some things I keep to myself.

For years I kept a secret that made me feel a little weird : I love erotic toys, sensual lingerie and the idea of Sex dates . I didn't dare tell anyone, not my friends, let alone a partner. I felt ashamed , as if it was something forbidden.

 

How it started

My curiosity began a long time ago. I'd browse through online catalogs, imagining myself in a lace outfit or with a unique toy in my hands.

But it remained a fantasy. I didn't dare take the plunge. It was a thought experiment I kept to myself, something I didn't bring into the real world.

One day, out of the blue, I stumbled across Afspraak online. I knew dating sites, but this one promised no-strings-attached sex . I created my profile half for fun , and I hesitated when it came to interests. Ultimately, I selected toys and lingerie . I didn't expect much.

The surprise of Appointment

What happened next completely surprised me. My inbox flooded with messages from people with similar interests . No judgments, just enthusiasm. It felt like a relief. Finally, I knew I wasn't alone.

Meeting with Marcos

I met Marcos through the site. He had ticked the same boxes. We chatted a bit, and it soon became clear we wanted to try something together. We planned a no-nonsense sex date , purely for fun. He asked me to bring lingerie and a toy; he would bring something too.

I chose a black set with red details and tucked a discreet vibrator into my bag. I was nervous, but also excited .

The night that changed everything

We went to his apartment, a cozy place with soft lighting. We laughed as we showed him what we'd brought: he a vibrating ring, I my little toy. It was natural, unhurried. We started exploring, letting the lingerie do its work. I let myself go with the vibrator while he watched, still in that outfit. The combination of the fabric against my skin and the sensations was addictive . Then he used the ring; at first I thought it was strange, but I soon understood why he liked it. We took turns, laughing, trying new things. The lingerie ended up on the floor, but we kept going until we were exhausted, satisfied, and grinning broadly.

A turning point

That night, something changed inside me. I no longer felt like my preferences were a dirty secret . Marcos and I continued to meet up occasionally, each time with a new toy or a surprising piece of clothing. But it went beyond just him.

Thanks to Appointment, I met more people for sex dates with similar interests. Each time, I felt freer, more myself.

Looking back

Now I look back and laugh at how worried I used to be. If I hadn't taken the step with Appointment, I'd still be hiding .

It's not just about sex, it's about letting go of your fears. Lingerie and toys were my gateway to that feeling. I feel different, more confident.

And you?

Have you ever wanted to try something but were afraid? Think about it. Create a profile on Afspraak and select what you really like . One click can change everything. Start your own sex dates now!